Originally Posted by RedRum
The one thing most people seem to forget is that as "Parents" we make decisions for our children every day about schools they attend, what they eat, who they visit, medical decisions with dental or if they require to visit a doctor etc. With CI. its the same. Our decision influences our children!!! All the decisions we make are in the best interests of our children and our childrens future and you would not base these decisions on hearsay, you would learn the facts. There seems to be much anger and confusion in the deaf community re CI. Is it because they fear there children will be different from them? The age of the child should not be to young, I agree but leaving it until they are too old could also cause problems. A reasonable decision needs to be made and this is once again, up to the parents.
Parents always do what they think is best!!!
Well, please don't say it's "off topic" but I like to give you the example why I let my children to choose themselves what they want CI or not.
I don't believe to have the right decision what the best interest for my child but love & respect, also upbrings limit, too but with dentals, doctors, school etc appointments is different.
Some of parents make such bad decisions because they think is best for their children. That's why I wouldn't do it because I don't know how my baby to small children feel, like what Cheri said. Logical the babies & small children up to 6 years old can't decide themselves what they want, that's why I rather wait until they are old enough to understand. I support their decision from 7 years to.... old instead of wait till 18 years old because I love them & want to see them happy.
I'm not change my baby's bodies by an operation because I don't know either they like it or not but help them to do right way like wear hearing aid, glass, prosthesis etc. Brenden, the prosthesis is not an implant like hearing aid, glass etc.
I'm not decide what the children eat but share our suggestion before I'm going to prepare.
We went to restaurants sometimes for the treat but I'm not choose what my children eat but let them to choose. I support their choice if they are not sure what it's good or not then give them the suggestions.
My children are welcome to share their opinions/discussion with me what they like or not. They also share what I like to eat, too.
I wouldn't do something without ask their permission but ask first before do something.
REMEMBER: The children have the same feeling as adults, too. That's why I'm concern their feelings instead of think what do the best for them.
I read the newspapers over the parents who think what the best interest for their children drive them to suicide.
One of many stories, I never forget is: True story around 15 years ago 16 years old girl want to study to become Vet but her parents object her wish & want her to become doctor or lawyer (I'm not sure which one) to follow her father's generation. Her father is well-known in the area where I live. A lot of arguments to drive her suicide. She left a goodbye letter to her parents said:
"I decide to end my life because I can't bear it anymore.
It's very sad that you can't change me what I want.
I can't bear it anymore.
Now I'm decide to end my life.
I want you know I love you & thank you for everything."
She let the train to run over to end her life.
Can you explain me how to get my 8 years old son to have an operation to correct his floppy ears because he is under 18 years old? Is it because I am a parent who has the right to have decision to do the best for the children under 18 years old? Oh No! I rather to leave my children to choose what they like.
like what I said: I can't see anything wrong with having CI implanted as long as the child want or not because it's their bodies, not mine. I support their decision from 7 years old.
Those examples are the same with CI!!!!
I would like to remember you that:
Every parents made the mistakes sometimes.
Every children are right about their opinions sometimes.
Every doctors made of course the mistakes sometimes.
Nobody are prefect.
That's an exactly why I rather wait till the children are old enough. I'm also collecting people's opinions as the same as the children collect their people's opinions, too. I believe is what we collecting the experiences before we doing something.
P.S. The children has the right to say NO & can go to Youth Social Worker because of those children protection law. They are on the childrenīs side to against their parentsīs decision. Super!!! As you see that a lot of children had been suffered by their parentīs decision because they canīt accept their wish.
Please remember that the children have the feeling. Please think twice.
This is your CHOICE if you think what you doing right.
That's all what I have my opinion & also my feeling, too. It stay with me.