Call it experience growing up with some hearing people who assume they have the best intentions at heart when they don't.
Some educators who assume they think they were doing it right by us, Deaf students, in the mainstreaming environment.
My sisters and I would sign and guess what? The hearing teachers would say to us "That's rude! Don't sign in front of other people!"
Now put yourself in my place and some "hard of hearing" people that have ASL knowledge decides to talk to each other in a Deaf social? You bet your arse I will be walking up to them and tell them not to talk.
I've done the same to my intervenors who decided to talk to each other and leaving the DeafBlind clients standing around with no knowledge of what is going on. I'd tactile what is going on and I'd straight out tell the intervenors NOT to talk when they have their own clients right by them.
They'd say feebly "But I'm talking to my friend now".. They know better than to talk using voice when they have a person who has no vision and no voice. It's blatantly being rude.
Now you understand why I keep saying hearing culture and Deaf culture are not the same, period.
It is rude to be talking when you know you can sign in front of other Deaf people. The very same people complain about this are making the very same effort to shun themselves from the Deaf Community, not those who asks them not to talk.
Just don't be rude, period. Yes, I come off as abrasive and I have to do this. It's called common sense, folks. Use it, please.
Some of your actions will reflect badly off & this is like vibes, people pick it up and ostracize you right away. It's not surprising that some of you post here complaining.
I don't need to say anymore. Period.