are you saying your spouse would get on you if you wanted to enrich yourself into deaf culture?
ONe more thing, don't force yourself into deaf culture if there is a problem with the wife.
I thought I would get all gungho in deaf culture, but find how shy I am of learning and expressing. Now Im just a deafy without deaf culture, but then again, nothing in my life dictates whether or not I am privvy to deaf culture.
hope that helps