It's never easy being a parent. But, I really don't like when parents use the bribing methods on their children because it sends the wrong message that their good and bad can be brought. I've seen where parents had bribed a child to stop his/her disruptive behavior, and that's rewarding the bad behavior instead of the good. Another example I've seen a parent who was telling her son that she will do anything that her son wants if he will just stand there and behave.
Bribing can go just too far, How will a child learns that his/her behavior is unacceptable? And just how will they build personal responsibility?
I do give my boys rewards similar to a note of appreciation. When my son brought home straight A's, I applause him for his hard work, and told him we will go out and celebrate it could be going out and get ice cream or dinner. I also reward them if they pull their own weight in helping with chores as a team work.
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My kids get money for doing well in preschool, something special for picking up their toys, and chocolate for going potty. It's working out great
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That's not bribing, that's rewarding.
