You've gone off track from your own post in trying to justify it.
Swingers open marraige means both partners want this situation. When one has lost interest andpermits it.....then I suspect there is still pain.The active spouse is still causing pain. Taking a chance of falling in love with other....and spending a lot of time with the extra.
Could maybe see it on a lesser scale...on occasion. But an ongoing thing nope. Time to move on and not make the other watch it.
Swingers and this situation are very different scenarios.
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Originally Posted by rockin'robin
I believe in traditional marriage also...but I can see that some couples who have been married a long time, get bored with each other. Some women/men let themselves "go", and the spouse still loves them but is no longer attracted sexually, OR one spouse has lost interest in sex, and won't or can't get help for the problem.....The couple wants to remain married, due to really loving each other, or children, or financial reasons, etc.....I do remember the "vows" that are taken....but does that mean if the woman or man lost all interest in sex, that the other one should suffer?
Or if one was in a coma, or had a disabling disease....many issues here, would that mean one of them had to forgo having sex for the rest of their life?
Marriage is hard work! Many things can happen during the marriage. And if the couple opts to have an "open" marriage, then that's their business, as long as they are discreet and honest about their needs.
It may sound as if it's "cheating" to some people...then again to those who are open to their marriages, it's not. Many wives turn a "blind eye" to their husband's discretions due to the fact they no longer want sex but the husband does.
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