Originally Posted by OrangeOreo
I'm deaf and gay (obiviously!) and I had a deaf boyfriend and a hearing boyfriend before. But, I have been wondering lately about which world to have a relationship with - deaf guy or hearing guy? I always feel like it's hard for my hearing ex to understand where I came from (i.e. deaf culture, etc) but there was a great chemistry while I feel opposite with my deaf ex. He understand where I came from, but lack of 'fire' chemistry.
And, it's easier to keep the personal life private if I was w/ a hearing guy. W/ a deaf guy, the personal life isn't private. Y'all know how deaf community can be!
I have always wanted to date a CODA guy someday! 2 worlds in one :-p
So, which is better to date? Hearing or Deaf?
In my experience, hearies are better. I am an oral deaf guy so I can speak with my voice. Therefore, it's easier for me and the hearie guy to understand each other with little to no problems.
I agree with you about the chemistry level that hearies have there (Mmmmmmm! *wink*), while deafies just "fell flat."
I agree wholeheartedly with you about the level of discreetness that hearies and deafies have. That was a lesson I managed to learn the hard way. Deafies just blab, blab, blab their big mouths off with no regard to others' wishes.
That's part of why I avoided the deaf community during my college years from 2004 to 2009, and mainly why I created an entirely separate Facebook account exclusively for deafies. I have 414 on the hearie side and 126 on the deafie side. If I haven't had bad experiences at the deaf school to begin with, then the total of friends on Facebook would've been 540.
About CODAs, good luck on that! Finding a gay hearing CODA has extremely TINY potential of success. I'm just saying that based on MY own experience.
I recommend that you should have a relationship with a hearie guy. If he knows that he'd have to learn a new language and he stays committed to it, then congratulations - that guy is for you.