I put my profile up on match.com about two weeks ago. I got a wink from a woman around here and while checking out her profile, noticed that we had a lot of similar interests, etc.
So, naturally, I sent her an email asking if she'd like to chat more. She gave me her Yahoo IM name and before I could add it, she had googled my name and found it.
Normally, I'd be creeped out by that. All she really had to do was ask. What I should have done was added her myself.
Anyway, so we start talking. It starts out good and simple, the way I like it. However, by the third day we chat online, she throws up another red flag: She says that she thinks I wouldn't like her, that I'd think she was ugly.
Why is this a red flag? It's an indicator of low self-esteem.
Anyway, that was the last time we chatted. I put her on ignore and removed her from my list.
Now, I'm wondering if what I did was fair or not. I've already concluded that I'm not attracted to her but I pussed out and couldn't tell her that, instead of just ignoring her. A lot of things she said about her life threw me off as well.
Maybe I am a dick. I saw what happened to my brother when he met a similar woman. She dragged him down and nearly ruined his life with her low self-esteem and negative outlook on life. He also lowered his standards to a point where he would accept anyone (not what I want to do) and he basically let her control his life. Because of my observations of his experience, I learned what I didn't want in a woman.
I can't help but feel bad a bit. I feel really good about myself and right now, I don't have time for my own negativity, let alone someone else's. I'm trying to have more confidence in myself, in life, etc.
Oh well. Maybe I should stop looking again before I hurt someone else or myself.